tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post8902855625397299996..comments2024-02-18T13:53:32.153+05:30Comments on Z Writes!: Some Parents Need To Grow Up!My Zoe's Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-12866964959447429152013-01-26T17:40:26.942+05:302013-01-26T17:40:26.942+05:30I guess there is no rule book. And kids are so dif...I guess there is no rule book. And kids are so different. I've got 2. And waht works with 1 doesn't work with the other. So am wary of making any flat rules, you know?Jandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17196460532320443618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-62731942305437165622013-01-25T16:02:09.418+05:302013-01-25T16:02:09.418+05:30Totally, and come to think of it parents are to be...Totally, and come to think of it parents are to be blamed here (and in many such cases). My Zoe's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-77211864991116950742013-01-25T14:22:03.317+05:302013-01-25T14:22:03.317+05:30Bhagwanji naraz ho jayenge...Gosh that's pathe...Bhagwanji naraz ho jayenge...Gosh that's pathetic. Completely in agreement here. And kids are smart.. they really know how far they can push you.. how far at home and how far in public. That mom's sure going to have a hard life.Obsessivemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06659233519392456624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-85217189982401911342013-01-22T17:34:46.092+05:302013-01-22T17:34:46.092+05:30Ouch!!! I do not mind apologizing if I'm genui...Ouch!!! I do not mind apologizing if I'm genuinely at fault, I cannot understand why parents over pamper kids, everyone knows it spoils them. My Zoe's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-36516803305552460232013-01-22T15:25:24.880+05:302013-01-22T15:25:24.880+05:30I second every opinion stated here. I have infact ...I second every opinion stated here. I have infact seen parents say sorry to a 5 year old at the mall for not buying him the car of his choice. It is really sad to see how some parents will "nyochawar" all their pyaar for the child and spoil him/her in the bargain.Pinksockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15732999505829969492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-8281872052663413912013-01-22T10:45:38.707+05:302013-01-22T10:45:38.707+05:30I agree kids become experts at handling situation,...I agree kids become experts at handling situation, if they know their parents do not approve of certain behavior they avoid doing that. Like my 2 yr old knows if she spills something she gets the duster and tries to clean the mess, she cannot clean the mean but at least attempts (I'm constantly talking about my daughter because she is someone I closely observe on a daily basis :)).<br /><br />And even I do not agree with instilling fear of God in kids from a young age. My Zoe's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-25388340741516128602013-01-22T08:29:16.617+05:302013-01-22T08:29:16.617+05:30Kids are born psychologists and know exactly how t...Kids are born psychologists and know exactly how their parents react in different situations and even places to the way they behave. It takes a while for most of us parents to strike a balance. But yes, drawing strict lines is necessary. What irks me most in this is the "Bhagwan naaraz ho jayenge" part. It is something that many kids in my daughter's van seem to parrot "god will punish you". Why is God being used as threat in disciplining? I thought we were supposed to inculcate a sense of friendship with him and not depict him as wielding the whip. As far as I see it "Bhagwan naaraz ho jayenge" if we handle the situation the way this mother did.Me! In wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07092829965456570645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-27219796465901388232013-01-22T00:03:14.489+05:302013-01-22T00:03:14.489+05:30Totally you cannot give them time out when you are...Totally you cannot give them time out when you are in front of everyone, but you can say a stern 'no' a kid of 2.5-3 also understands a stern 'No', I have seen them politely asking for permission. He was big enough... After a certain age misbehaving cannot be taken for granted, whether they are 4 or 10. <br /><br />Moving out of that place is the best you can do if they are younger :-)My Zoe's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-59245401750327021352013-01-21T22:55:47.050+05:302013-01-21T22:55:47.050+05:30Being a tod's mom, I somehow feel jinxed to co...Being a tod's mom, I somehow feel jinxed to comment what I want to say on this post. But certainly that lady could have handled things more appropriately rather than submitting to the whims of the child. And no not all the 4 year old behave like this. I know a 4 yr old who make sure to ask for permission to touch anything at someone else's place while his cousin who is almost 10 yrs age pulls out whatever she likes at people's place ( she took out dry-fruits from my kitchen, without asking, ate few and stuffed rest inside the folds beneath sofa!!)....so the difference lies in parenting.<br />Also, I am not in favour of publicly punishing kids but moving out could have been an option.NBosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08118661184736647512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-25156413453075083282013-01-21T22:53:52.287+05:302013-01-21T22:53:52.287+05:30Welcome Aboard Pushpa... I totally agree, some peo...Welcome Aboard Pushpa... I totally agree, some people are of the opinion that I'm extremely strict... but I try to create a balance :-)My Zoe's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-20663361429674654712013-01-21T22:30:09.660+05:302013-01-21T22:30:09.660+05:30children know how to bully parents, 2yrs old or 4y...children know how to bully parents, 2yrs old or 4yrs old, they should be taught from the very age who is the boss :))Pushpzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03844654008613100248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-74776951782593091812013-01-21T20:48:16.668+05:302013-01-21T20:48:16.668+05:30Even I believe in pulling Zoe up if she misbehaves...Even I believe in pulling Zoe up if she misbehaves... but she is too young to understand, hence I or Fizz move out with her. We don't let her have it her way when she crosses the line. If the mom was embarrassed it would have been obvious from her behavior, her attitude was more like "Son please have food, you will get anything you want." My Zoe's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-48510010712611301632013-01-21T16:30:14.323+05:302013-01-21T16:30:14.323+05:30My take is this. What the boy did was certainly no...My take is this. What the boy did was certainly not a 4 year old's maturity. But the mom? I'd still give her benefit of doubt. If she was feeling embarrassed, she may have not found the courage to reprimand him publicly. Several people do not believe in publicly even mildly ticking off their wards (and my take on public punishments is different too. i do not hesitate to remind my son of his good manners. the people around are strangers, but my son SHOULD know that bad manners will not be put up with). <br /><br />I'd've liked it if the mom had asked the boy to comment on what he was doing. Cuckoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13697563902061372977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-56587639533848020412013-01-21T16:05:27.133+05:302013-01-21T16:05:27.133+05:30I swear Aparna, deja vu is obvious coz we have so ...I swear Aparna, deja vu is obvious coz we have so many kids behave like this and parents do not care. The worst part is teaching them there are people who will clean their mess. My Zoe's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-63100820925792759732013-01-21T14:59:45.155+05:302013-01-21T14:59:45.155+05:30This post gave me a total deja vu moment of when w...This post gave me a total deja vu moment of when we were on a holiday at one of the Club Mahindra resorts - and a young child pushed over her glass of water that shattered on the floor. There was absolutely no retribution from the parent, only a vague encouragement of "Koi nahi beta, voh uncles clean kar denge!" - this was without even a direct request to the staff to actually come and clean it up.Aparnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06829120477564667304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-43635694023068972812013-01-21T12:33:23.449+05:302013-01-21T12:33:23.449+05:30Tantrums are ok for a 2 year old, but a 4 year old...Tantrums are ok for a 2 year old, but a 4 year old should understand when s/he will get punished. This kid here was making his parents dance on his finger tips My Zoe's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217863579007353972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3659845884563292718.post-61861468909160373072013-01-21T12:29:26.159+05:302013-01-21T12:29:26.159+05:30Can't agree more. I know I am not a strict mom...Can't agree more. I know I am not a strict mom and not lenient either. But getting that perfect balance is the way to go and I am still striving. Someones when I see Shreya throwing all those tantrums, the first thought that comes to my mind 'Am I too lenient?"<br /><br />Canvas Of my Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06581734386263322811noreply@blogger.com