If you know me as a person, you'd know I don't believe in stereotypes. My way of parenting is not what every parent vouch by, but its a method The Toddler and me have developed over a period of 2 years. I believe parenting (like every other thing) is an ever learning process, and what works for me, might or might not work for you. Here I've listed down 13 small changes which might affect my parenting in a huge manner positively (Insh'Allah).
- Work on my patience and try to keep my cool: Before the Toddler was born, I was an extremely chilled out person, but motherhood changed it. I'm Human, I get irritated and yell at The Toddler, I hate it but I end up doing it. I definitely do it in a controlled manner, I know my limits as a parent. Still I feel pathetic and I want to change this bit.
- Make an effort to look better. I feel better when I look better and it will affect my mood and my behavior. I work from home most of the time and when I go out for meetings/training I don't put much effort there as well. Soon The Toddler might just start telling me, she's embarrassed by the way I dress up, and I wouldn't be able to blame her.
- Become/Stay Healthier: this means working out, losing weight, getting Physio for my knee and back, as well as getting regular check-ups. I don't have a problem, where diet is concerned.
- Have a meal as a family, without watching Television.
- Keep our car and my wardrobe clatter free. If the car is dirty, it might be unhealthy for The Toddler. If my wardrobe is clean, I would obviously be in a better mood. I would need less time to fetch my cloths and can get more time to get ready.
- Sleep on time and get up before The Toddler gets up. Generally the Toddler wakes us up and we are in a terrible mood, especially on weekends. So I want to go early to bed and get up early... this would ensure I'm healthier as well.
- Read more books, and get more for the Toddler.
- Take The Toddler to zoos, botanical gardens, parks, and help her explore open spaces.
- Organize play-dates for The Toddler with my mommy friends. This has been pending for a long long time and its high time I get into organizing the same. This will also help get used to her to her daycare and schools.
- Stop analyzing parenting skills of other parents, I do try to avoid doing that and I hate when I end up doing it. It's not good for mommie-hood as well.
- Try to improve my work-life balance. This would ensure when I work I give my 100% there and when I'm with The Toddler I am totally with her.
- Try to spend some quality time with The Toddler... reading books, crafts, puzzles etc.
- Meal plan for The Toddler, I do that on and off. I want to become regular with her meal planning.
So... that is my list. What is yours?